He has a million rules for you, but none for himself
This isn’t just about double standards, it’s about the pattern of being controlling.
Ultimately anything that seems or feels controlling is a value
taking behaviour in a relationship.
The more value taking it FEELS to your heart,
to your gut and to your feminine intuition, the more toxic it is to your soul.
Perhaps he has these rules for you because he
prefers to make you his pet rather than making you his lover.
It could be a tactic of “concealment” where
he expects you to limit your exposure to other people (and therefore not risk
cheating on him with other men).
In fact, the whole setup isn’t about love,
it’s about power and control. And a relationship that is based upon power and
control, is a toxic relationship in my books.
But if a man seems to often expect you to
follow rigid rules that he has set up, yet he doesn’t have any rules for
himself or his life, then this is more of a pet and owner situation.
And I call that toxic, because what our heart
truly wants is to experience love and belonging. Being in such an unequal
situation will eat away at your natural trust in love and connection.
When you lose trust in love and connection,
that poisons your ability to engage and trust in relationships.
Don’t let this happen to you, because all we
truly have in the end is connection.
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